Communication Challenge

conversations with ourselves

Dreams can come true, but there is a secret. They’re realized through the magic of persistence, determination, commitment, passion, practice, focus and hard work. They happen a step at a time, manifested over years, not weeks.

-Elbert Hubbard

How would you rate the quality of communication you have with yourself?

We are, all of us, in constant communication with our own self – inner battles to go to yoga class or stay on the couch, thinking our way to solutions for complex client problems, coming up with better responses to ancient arguments; judgement, patience, capacity, resilience and core values – all stem from thoughts.

And yet, we are not these thoughts, we are not (only) our safety-seeking brains. There is an observer, a witness, a receiver of these thoughts. A decider – what thoughts to accept, what thoughts to reject.

We each have the ability to choose thoughts that are supportive, loving and expansive, as much as we are able to choose thoughts that are limited, self-critical and closed. 

There are so many thought options to the circumstances of our lives  – and now is the perfect time to practice a higher level of awareness around noticing how our thoughts create emotions in the body – and how that combo affects the actions we take. 

Imagine a conversational-style with self that includes intentionally choosing thoughts that align with the you that you aim to be.

Imagine the thoughts and feelings of the you that sits over in a future where you have already achieved your intended goal.

Notice any differences between those realities and the one you’re in now.

The Self-Coaching Model and Thought Ladder tools explored in this month’s challenge will give you a framework to better connect how your current thoughts are driving your actions and results, and a process to experiment with shifting your beliefs and results by practicing better-feeling thoughts.

Your specific challenge this month is to identify a thought that is neither useful or helpful to you right now, and create a Thought Ladder and practice your new thought.


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"Dr. James Gills is a brilliant ocular surgeon who said, “I talk to myself more than I listen to myself,” and when I heard this, it stopped me in my tracks. Most of us know that listening to others usually does us good, but we don’t realize that we also often listen to what our brain tells us to think."

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